Raising A Child With Selective Mutism | MY CHILD WON'T TALK | Full Documentary | Origin

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Introducing three families whose children suffer from the strange and isolating condition called selective mutism. They are children who can talk and inside the family home, do talk, often quite noisily. But, in public, they are seized with an anxiety about speaking which is so acute it renders them mute.

They are unable to speak in class at school, to friends, to grandparents. Untreated, the condition destroys any prospect of a normal social life. But treatment is long term and painstaking. The prospect of speaking in public makes these children’s heart race, makes them sweaty, breathless and paralyzed by anxiety.

We meet seven year old Red, whose granddad has never heard a single word from his only granddaughter. We meet Megan, cut off from the rest of her school class by her fear of speaking. And we meet Danielle, who, at 15, seems to be a recovered mute. Danielle’s story shows us the persistence and insidiousness of the condition as it starts to creep back and steal away her speech again.

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  1. Raeanna Marie Bailey
    Raeanna Marie Bailey
    4 uur geleden

    I know they all feel because I have selective mutism as well and I also talk in certain social Area places I talk a lot at home not at work and I used to not talk in school but I talked in school Half of the year and the rest of the year didn’t talk at all the rest of my school years and I finally started talking with my fiancé after I got to normal little bit more when we started dating I don’t talk with his family though I’m starting to talk when I do my Metro Mobility fill up on my card and when I go to the store by myself and when I called him a ride from Metro rides for work yes and when I need it to fix a problem with my bank things meeting accounts and things and things with my Nintendo switch and other things like that I’ll talk in certain social aspects I don’t talk to my mom side the family or my stepdad‘s family but I’m getting there slowly step-by-step to starting to talk what is taking it I’m taking it step-by-step slowly.

  2. ka11
    ka11
    5 uur geleden

    6:13 whats your favorite thing you do at school? *meths*

  3. Geno
    Geno
    22 uur geleden

    I think people with selective mutism should learn sign language, it could help communicating without speaking

  4. Scott Anderson
    Scott Anderson
    22 uur geleden

    it appears they're just shy more shy then the average child.

  5. Scott Anderson
    Scott Anderson
    22 uur geleden

    since there's only about three people that they talking about most likely it's not a official medical condition.

    1. Danielle F
      Danielle F
      19 uur geleden

      @Scott Anderson It's official medical terminology is Selective Mutism.

    2. Scott Anderson
      Scott Anderson
      20 uur geleden

      @Danielle F well if you call it by its official medical terminology if it's true instead of beating around the bush.

    3. Danielle F
      Danielle F
      21 uur geleden

      Selective Mutism has been a recognised medical condition since the 1800s under a variety of different names. It is rare but not exclusive to the three of us featured in the documentary. Danielle (from the documentary)

  6. Laurie Wagner-Hess
    Laurie Wagner-Hess
    23 uur geleden

    My father would not talk for his first 3 years of life. His story was? He had nothing to say.

  7. Vishesh Agarwal
    Vishesh Agarwal
    Dag geleden

    I think I have kinda a similar disorder. Although it's not this worse, but sometimes I stammer whilst speaking especially in a formal situation or when I am talking to elders. I don't stutter at all whilst talking to myself, even with some friends I stutter almost negligible. But usually I do stuggle in speaking or uttering some words. I pause in between whilst pronouncing a word.

  8. Vishesh Agarwal
    Vishesh Agarwal
    Dag geleden

    If they can't speak, can they write?

  9. Blind Joe
    Blind Joe
    Dag geleden

    It makes perfect sense. I was this way as a child till I turned 6. Simply explained: most people are fucking controlling. It came back after a major loss and was there for a few years again in my early adulthood. The chains of self reflection tighten on your heart when you share yourself and allow yourself to be observed by those you don’t fully trust. When you ARE yourself, it’s a precious thing, everyone will try to take it away unconsciously. People give advice as a form of nostalgia. Everyone’s saying “look at me be like me!” No thank you. You can say something to somebody, they’ll not understand and ask you to say it in another way. They’ll ask for a variety of explanations… what they really want is for you to speak in their terms. You don’t own my words, I do. All our words even if they’re the same have different meanings. If you don’t know what my words mean then think on them for a while. If you still don’t know then fuckin drop it and we can create something together. Parallel play for the silent kids. I cannot respond kindly to scripted conversation even now. My niece was falling into this, so I started teasing her, it helps her open up. I encourage her attitude. We argue. I say stupid things, I say the unexpected things. I say funny things, delightful things. I give her gifts. And she comes out of her shell.

  10. ivana sebastian
    ivana sebastian
    Dag geleden

    I was a survivor of selective mutism when I was a kid due to no confidence, bullied, social anxiety, and body dysmorphia. I'm still in recovery but I can communicate with the outside world better

  11. Nahbroo
    Nahbroo
    2 dagen geleden

    As someone with selective mutism, it’s not that you just don’t want to speak, sometimes i want to say something or reply to someones question but the thing is, i can’t find the courage to say it and i scream in my head to just spit it out, but instead of saying anything i just stand there looking like an idiot. Idk about other people, but for me personally, i’m terrified of embarrassing myself by saying something stupid and for years i was insecure about the way my voice sounded. I was always scared at the idea of me saying something and the other person laughing at me. But idk, that’s just me 🤷🏻‍♀️

  12. enam orez Pascal
    enam orez Pascal
    2 dagen geleden

    Watching these girls starts to talk more its feels like watching your own kid walk for the first time. its excites me

  13. Tater Avila
    Tater Avila
    2 dagen geleden

    I didn't know this was a thing

  14. BenguinGuy
    BenguinGuy
    2 dagen geleden

    I sit next to a girl in maths with this, she’s absolutely silent not heard her talk once so idek what she sounds like

  15. Samantha D'Alia
    Samantha D'Alia
    3 dagen geleden

    this doc is so ablelist for so many reasons please don't watch this

    1. Samantha D'Alia
      Samantha D'Alia
      Dag geleden

      @Arthur lol yeah it's a nasty typo sorry lol

    2. Arthur
      Arthur
      2 dagen geleden

      I have lost brain cells reading this

  16. Imsunok Lemtur
    Imsunok Lemtur
    3 dagen geleden

    I have telephobia. Yes, I talk to people in person but doing the same over phone is very very difficult for me.

  17. Sara Larraidji
    Sara Larraidji
    3 dagen geleden

    24:50 brought tears to my eyes

  18. AA Home Gardening
    AA Home Gardening
    3 dagen geleden

    Red has a very special granddad

  19. Eva Marie
    Eva Marie
    4 dagen geleden

    I had selective mutism as a child with some family members and my piano teacher; very random. Still managed to do 4 years of lessons though; communicated via whiteboard

  20. sapple apple
    sapple apple
    4 dagen geleden

    2:10 is that the voice actor for mrs rabbit cuz

  21. Chiyakaちやか
    Chiyakaちやか
    4 dagen geleden

    ohh no... i burst out in tears watching this. i feel the same. i cant speak to anyone... not even to my own mom.. it really hurts not being able to speak, even seeing their reactions when you just wont talk to them. they will get sad.. really sad. and that makes me sad. and eventually... depressed.

  22. kynikoi_
    kynikoi_
    4 dagen geleden

    "I don't hate people. I just feel better when they aren't around." -Charles Bukowski

  23. Masawudu A.rahman
    Masawudu A.rahman
    5 dagen geleden

    Haha African mums would beat u till u start speaking

  24. Neenaw Leach
    Neenaw Leach
    5 dagen geleden

    I've had selective mutism all my life. Finally, two years ago, at age 67 I got a diagnosis of autism. I've had lifelong problems with my mental health and have found life very difficult and scary. At certain times I can't talk at all, at others I'm just very quiet......but at other times I talk "normally". I have had to make myself talk to fit in but I avoid talking if possible, as it's often exhausting and stressful. I hate the phone but have used it in the past, however I haven't been able to for the last few years. My problem is not just with the anxiety of talking but also with language processing. Like many females, I was very good at autistic masking, although I didn't realise that's what I was doing. Now that I know what some of my difficulties are, I can ask people to talk slowly and give me time to speak too but that in itself is very difficult. Many autistics use cards to communicate that they need more time. I wish sign language was used more and taught in schools......I think it would have helped me.

  25. Ur Mom
    Ur Mom
    6 dagen geleden

    Teach em sign language

    1. madtingz
      madtingz
      3 dagen geleden

      I’m selective mute and wouldn’t want to learn sign as it would bring more attention to me

  26. adina shaina
    adina shaina
    6 dagen geleden

    So glad beatings are not acceptable these days. I would have much preferred a gentle voice than the screaming in my face . which quite frankly may have been the cause of my personal mute ness.

  27. adina shaina
    adina shaina
    6 dagen geleden

    Some mute practitioners are victims of parental abuse. Parents lie to cover their abuses against their children.

  28. hdd ak
    hdd ak
    7 dagen geleden

    I don't have selective mutism, but I have non-verbal episodes sometimes, and I'd describe it as when you try to swallow a pill but you get this sort of mental block that makes it impossible to swallow, and you just sit there gaping like a fish

  29. wkwkwk koo
    wkwkwk koo
    7 dagen geleden

    I'm not introvert or selective mutism I can't talk properly like any kinds of talking problem

  30. Saveourn Srey
    Saveourn Srey
    8 dagen geleden

    I call it stubbornness. They call it a disorder. Funny how there’s a medical terminology for everything now.

    1. Danielle F
      Danielle F
      7 dagen geleden

      You're completely incorrect. Selective Mutism is not a choice not to speak or disobedient behaviour, the inability to speak is an uncontrollable reaction to the extreme anxiety we were experiencing in certain situations. Danielle (from the documentary)

  31. Dino Dragon
    Dino Dragon
    8 dagen geleden

    Why arent they teaching them sign language?

    1. madtingz
      madtingz
      3 dagen geleden

      Selective mutism is more than just being scared to talk, it’s also being scared to do anything in front of others… it’s a good suggestion but as someone with selective mutism I wouldn’t have wanted to learn sign as it would bring attention to me.

  32. Unfunny Bunny
    Unfunny Bunny
    9 dagen geleden

    My bro is 15 and he has selective mutism. I want to help him but I don't know how to.

  33. Ava leigh Brewer
    Ava leigh Brewer
    9 dagen geleden

    So I just found out I have sm and I’m just wondering how do I tell my friends? No one knows I have it except the counselor at my school her intern and my mom and that’s it

  34. Amy Davis
    Amy Davis
    9 dagen geleden

    Keep trying, Danielle! You will get there when you're ready! Next time, try not to put so much importance on DOING it, just... do it. Think about other things while you are in the store... don't think about having to speak, don't talk yourself into it, just try not to make it your sole purpose for being there. Make something else the IMPORTANT part to get through. Like... set your mind to thinking about how you approach the counter, keep your mind on that. Then when the time comes, just step up and say hello, pay for your chocolate, and say good bye.

  35. Amy Davis
    Amy Davis
    9 dagen geleden

    Most of us have heard of the "fight or flight" response to a perceived threat. But there is a third response that few speak of.... and that is being paralysed in fear. I believe that is what is happening with these children. That they might be somewhere along the spectrum, and their verbal social anxiety is so great that it completely "paralyzes" their vocal chords. Obviously it can be overcome with most, if not all, but it is a very long process.

  36. Amy Davis
    Amy Davis
    9 dagen geleden

    "How do you have a relationship with a child that won't speak to you?" Ummm millions of parents do that every day... with children that are deaf and mute. It's called "sign language".

  37. Shabnam Mukhtar
    Shabnam Mukhtar
    9 dagen geleden

    The girl with black hair looks exactly like corl aka brenden, the youtuber

  38. The Best
    The Best
    10 dagen geleden

    This kinda made me wanna cry.... When I was little, like in pre school, I remember it was my first day of school and I started crying when my dad was leaving after dropping me to school... after then a teacher came and made me enter the school building. Then another teacher asked for my name and... well I couldn't say anything... it was as if I suddenly forgot how talking works... I could control my mouth but no voice came out... and so I got into a lot of trouble (I was sent to the principal's office and I had to wait there for my parents to come pick me up the whole time until school ended...) I also remember that when I was in school, I wouldn't walk like normal kids, Id move my feet for less than a centimetre so that I wouldn't come to class early... I just wanted school out of my life.. Then when I was a 1st grader, I went to a new school. There were only 2 sections of my class. So on the first day, I went to the right class. When it was day 2, a random woman pushed me into the wrong class room (it was the other section) and the door closed behind me. I tried opening it but I was kinda wimpy back then so I couldn't, and then I couldn't even tell the teacher... So I found a chair and sat there like an idiot not knowing what to do... and the next day I got into a lot of trouble... again... And then there are a bunch of experiences like this... and when I look back, all I can say is that I was so alone, and it was all so painful... I got srsly messed up and dealt with severe depression and suicidal thoughts (when I was like..5 or 6?)... But they were the toughest years in my life. And now I have PTSD from all of that... I'm almost 16 now and I still have trouble trying to communicate with others, although I do sometimes participate in my class and it makes me very happy.

  39. Say Say
    Say Say
    10 dagen geleden

    When I have an anxiety attack I can’t speak it’s like my brain freezes idk but what I am saying is that I think Selective Mutism is like that I think. I don’t know much about it but I just think it misunderstood-…

  40. Beck K
    Beck K
    10 dagen geleden

    Having experience with children with extreme anxiety, the amount of people in the comments here who seem to think the better option is not to try and do anything about it is kind of sad & worrying.

  41. kel
    kel
    10 dagen geleden

    I have selective mutisim and its horrible. Sometimes i do want to talk and make friends but i can't speak

  42. Faith Stephanopoulos
    Faith Stephanopoulos
    10 dagen geleden

    I really hate it when parents say that line: "...if they can't ____, how will they ____?" Isn't that part of your child's journey? Didn't you need to make your own path growing up? Why do you want to do that *for* your child. After you die, which should happen during your child's life, they need to be able to thrive WITHOUT YOU.

  43. Ava leigh Brewer
    Ava leigh Brewer
    10 dagen geleden

    Yesterday my step dad tried to get me to talk in public and he said it’s just you and me you can talk! Me in my head: there’s like 10 other people around! Are you dumb? Do you need to go back to school to learn how to count again?! 🤣🤣

  44. Ava leigh Brewer
    Ava leigh Brewer
    10 dagen geleden

    I went to a concert and I saw my cousin there and she asked me questions and I was so scared I couldn’t talk and didn’t answer

  45. SweetLala25
    SweetLala25
    11 dagen geleden

    You can clearly see this is old so I wonder how much time has passed, if they are talkative and if Red finally talked to her Grandfather in person.

    1. F C
      F C
      7 dagen geleden

      I saw Red mention in another comment here she never got to talk to her grandpa.. 🥺💔 but that everyone is doing good. Its cool to see them responding here in comments! I wish everyone the best

    2. Danielle F
      Danielle F
      10 dagen geleden

      It was filmed in 2009 and first broadcast in 2010. We've all grown up now! Danielle (from the documentary) :)

  46. Ava leigh Brewer
    Ava leigh Brewer
    11 dagen geleden

    I do what i have to, to get through the day

  47. Ava leigh Brewer
    Ava leigh Brewer
    11 dagen geleden

    At school to show how I’m feeling i use body language to tell my teachers I’m ok i give them a thumbs up or ill nod my head

  48. BeeBoi
    BeeBoi
    11 dagen geleden

    One time in Grade 1, there was a girl in my Class named...We'll call her Jenny, she had Selective Mutism, She would only talk to different teachers and her parents from what I could See. I havent seen her in awhile since she went to a different School 3 years ago.

    1. Ava leigh Brewer
      Ava leigh Brewer
      11 dagen geleden

      Hope she’s doing ok i know how she feels

  49. Ava leigh Brewer
    Ava leigh Brewer
    11 dagen geleden

    Does anyone know if that is selective mutism?

  50. Ava leigh Brewer
    Ava leigh Brewer
    11 dagen geleden

    Me and my mom both think i have selective mutism i dont talk at school, we went shopping and i didnt say anything, we went to a concert i didnt say anything and if i did it was a very quiet whisper in my moms ear

  51. Brookeey
    Brookeey
    11 dagen geleden

    does anyone know where they all are now??

  52. UmU Mafu
    UmU Mafu
    11 dagen geleden

    Short version : mute 9 years -> regrets->tried to speak up half failed half worked-> Corona hits gets depression and school phobia. I was a selective mute for 9 years when I'm at school until I was fourteen wich I really regret so much, just putting me on the spot or talking to me would make my heart drop , I would never talk to someone unless they talked to me (I would nod ) but they would not bother talking to me , until i was 11 when a sweet girl started just pulling me everywhere she go and do small talks . I was happy with that friend until 3 years later she made another friend and started to leave me behind ,and that where my brain went fuck life let's be normal . Regretted it but I made the first move in my life so I was so happy (made that move on the wrong person still she was my only friend). Then Corona virus came along I was estatic since I wont go to school anymore but it wasnt fun and made me feel more secluded wich brought along depression and school phobia .(I will never understand where I got school phobia but I think it was the environment and bad grades , everytime I hear school my heart stops and my tears start to flow even though I have been a year to school)

  53. Kasey Domer
    Kasey Domer
    11 dagen geleden

    Megan’s smile after she introduced herself to her new teacher… 😭😭🥲

  54. Sarah Whittaker
    Sarah Whittaker
    11 dagen geleden

    They keep saying stuff like “how can you have a relationship with a child who won’t speak to you?” I dunno teach them sign language?? Like what do they think parents of deaf children do? Honestly there’s more than one way to communicate!

  55. ً
    ً
    11 dagen geleden

    Something kinda similar happened to me but I eventually got out of it. I started speaking English as my second language when I was 2 or 3, but would literally never talk to anyone in English unless it was a friend or a teacher. My dad would constantly talk to me in English, and I understood everything he said... But I responded in my mother tongue. It's a really strange feeling to want to talk to my father in English but just not having the heart to do it. I eventually slowly stopped when my dad "caught" me speaking in English with a customer of his. But it took literal years for me to be able to speak English to him. And I still feel kind of uncomfortable talking in English with my family. The brain just does some weird things sometimes.

  56. koo tloml
    koo tloml
    12 dagen geleden

    yo de pequeñita tenía mutismo selectivo, hubo muchas veces en que ni siquiera a mi familia le hablaba y ellos insistían tanto que me frustraba y más silencio guardaba, ahora ya soy mayor y fui perdiendolo aunque este año volví a guardar silencio, el más largo fue por 1 mes:(

  57. Gr8fulnomad
    Gr8fulnomad
    13 dagen geleden

    20 years ago I worked in the Special Education Department at an elementary school. One of the children I worked with had this. She wouldn't speak a word in the classroom. It was my first year with this child but she had known all the other teachers for about 3 years. One day, her and I were out at recess, just walking around, playing tag, and being silly. She just started talking to me. I was floored but tried not making a big deal about. I was so excited for this break through. I think it was because she viewed me as someone her age as I was about 20 years younger then the youngest teacher. When we went back in the classroom, she clammed back up. I thought the other teachers wouldn't believe me but one of the other children confirmed it. Some teachers were, understandably, a little frustrated as they tried for years. Eventually, I got her to talk behind closed doors but with the teachers listening right outside. She was the most adorable, sweet child. A highlight of my life for sure.

  58. Lindsey K
    Lindsey K
    13 dagen geleden

    Them being pressured to talk and having strangers with cameras watching them and telling them to talk has to be overwhelming!

  59. Shai
    Shai
    13 dagen geleden

    I knew a girl in primary school who never talked, just nodded and shook her head. I only figured out she could speak after she laughed. We never pushed her to speak, she would accompany us and play, we all liked her. I moved schools eventually but ended up seeing her again in high school. She was still quiet but spoke to me for the first time. I was pretty excited to say the least.

  60. seanclemsonmusic
    seanclemsonmusic
    13 dagen geleden

    Red is also a character from Pokemon who never talks

  61. Valanimal
    Valanimal
    13 dagen geleden

    I think red does like her grandad and wants to speak to him but just can’t. I mean look at her smiling when she’s with her grandad.

  62. Cindi Barton
    Cindi Barton
    13 dagen geleden

    so the child is running the household....hmmm

    1. Danielle F
      Danielle F
      13 dagen geleden

      Absolutely not the case. Selective Mutism is an extreme, uncontrollable anxiety disorder, not a choice not to speak. Danielle (from the documentary)

  63. Froggy :D
    Froggy :D
    14 dagen geleden

    They could try sign language tho, the child wouldn’t have to use their voice but they could talk to other people who have learned the sign language too

  64. Chasing a Murderer
    Chasing a Murderer
    14 dagen geleden

    Ignore them they will talk, give them space and in time it will get better. Attention makes it worse

  65. Spacesystem Cosplays
    Spacesystem Cosplays
    14 dagen geleden

    From a person with Selective Mutism, being asked to talk and the thought of talking (for me) is extremely anxiety- inducing. It's like being told to scream in a silent room full of people

    1. Monique martinez
      Monique martinez
      13 dagen geleden

      @Spacesystem Cosplays oh man, I figured it was like that... I'm so sorry. I'm not sure if your ok with me praying, but I'll be praying for you.

    2. Spacesystem Cosplays
      Spacesystem Cosplays
      13 dagen geleden

      @Monique martinez yeah. I physically cannot speak, no matter how much I want to. It can be quite frustrating. Its like your vocal chords just won't work. This is just how it is for me, I can't speak for others becuase it may be different for them

    3. Monique martinez
      Monique martinez
      14 dagen geleden

      Wow..may I ask, when someone asks you to speak, does it feel like you just can't? I know when I get anxiety reading out loud... I just can't do it, something takes over and I just can't. I wonder if it's the same thing sorta.

  66. Big Ed
    Big Ed
    14 dagen geleden

    44:26 i laughed so hard at that little boy saying yes in the same tone twice 💀

  67. Sean Lennon
    Sean Lennon
    14 dagen geleden

    well we have voice messages now

  68. Emily W.
    Emily W.
    15 dagen geleden

    “I love the railway children” 👧 ... what?

    1. Big Ed
      Big Ed
      14 dagen geleden

      it’s an old 2000’s movie. this documentary was taken years ago but was uploaded onto youtube in 2019

  69. Christina Titus
    Christina Titus
    15 dagen geleden

    I really admire the strength of Danielle to just like take the bull by the horns per say and be like fuck it. Moving schools to start over. I feel for her, she's so strong and I feel sadnes for her when she had that chocolate bar incident. Like you can see how badly she wanted to just talk

    1. Danielle F
      Danielle F
      15 dagen geleden

      Thanks :) Danielle (from the documentary)

  70. Willow and Emma plays
    Willow and Emma plays
    15 dagen geleden

    I have selected mutism

  71. Aanonymous Amanda
    Aanonymous Amanda
    16 dagen geleden

    The background music is pissing me off. It's like they aren't taking it seriously.

  72. Sol Gimar
    Sol Gimar
    16 dagen geleden

    My brother has been dealing with this for years now, it's nice to find more information and know that even though it's very uncommon, there are ways to treat this phobia. It hurts my heart to see the noticable similarities in facial expressions, gestures, mannerism etc between these kids and brother.

  73. The One
    The One
    16 dagen geleden

    Just give her Hard Liquor, it worked for the guy from the big gang theory.

  74. Amelia
    Amelia
    16 dagen geleden

    Red looks so much like her Grandad!!

  75. charlie mai bowyer
    charlie mai bowyer
    17 dagen geleden

    it was so seeet seeing megen talk to her teachers

  76. Ava leigh Brewer
    Ava leigh Brewer
    17 dagen geleden

    When i look at megan i see me

  77. Crystal Laner
    Crystal Laner
    17 dagen geleden

    I had this until about 16. Getting away from my abusive mother cured it. As a kid if I was told to speak when I didnt want to, or take a bullet to the foot, I'd have taken the bullet. It felt easier. Its almost like a severe stutter caused by social anxiety.

  78. Caribou Jade Wilderness Life
    Caribou Jade Wilderness Life
    17 dagen geleden

    I think all these youngsters are just beautiful and so much congratulations on all of their successes 💗

  79. Isabella Vinther
    Isabella Vinther
    17 dagen geleden

    Maybe they could learn sign language

  80. Selkie
    Selkie
    17 dagen geleden

    1) It’s not fair on the kid to try and get her to speak to her grandad. That’s something she can work on if she so chooses to in her own time. To pressure her and make her feel like she is being unfair to him is so wrong in my opinion. I think having help for her to work on this is good but it should be for her sake, not the grandfathers. Also 8:03 SHE IS A NORMAL CHILD. She is a normal child who has a few different needs. 2) it is a teachers job to make accommodations for the child not the other way around. If she has so much to say, then do your best to make her feel more comfortable by giving her alternative methods to communicate her ideas. It is not the child fault she can’t talk, it’s not an active decision or a lack of trying. Give the kid time and support rather than complain about the inconvenience of her communication. 3) this is unfair to say. As someone who has grown up with selective mutism, and later, situational mutism, it is unfair to say that you can’t be happy with these conditions. I agree that it’s a good idea to help kids to gain confidence, help anxiety, and help them develop speech, but if that isn’t possible then you can still live a happy and fulfilling like. You may have more needs and more accommodations made but you can still certainly have a job and friends and a life! I have found excellent communities online who I have made some dear friends though. Your not doomed to misery if you have problems speaking. You may have to take a different route to the obvious path, but you can certainly lead a grate life. 12:51 ok, at this point I’m just down right mad. Stop treating this kid as if she’s an inconvenience, stop treating her like she’s the problem. It’s unfair to keep going on about how this effects him because that’s blatantly gona effect this kids self esteem and make her feel like she is hurting him. I repeat, SHE IS NOT A PROBLEM AND DOESNT EXIST FOR YOUR CONVENIENCE. 17:58 I think this was handled a lot better than other attempts. One of the things that sets of my anxiety is questions. Listing familiar things instead of question is a really good idea. 29:59: bless her. That one hit hard ngl I’m so glad stuff improved for them all. Warms my heart. Sorry for how long this comment was, if anyone reads it, but this is something very close to my heart and misinformation or mishandling of the situation makes me very upset and poor handling that was a problem for me when I was younger and has had a lasting effect on me today. Towards the end it was nice to see that some had grasped that it was harder for the kids than they initially thought and that was nice to see them recognise the kids trying. Glad things turned out well

  81. K1TTYCH0K3R
    K1TTYCH0K3R
    18 dagen geleden

    I have a friend at school with selective mutism, and she is such a sweetheart

  82. Sheila Rizzuto
    Sheila Rizzuto
    18 dagen geleden

    This is only sad to me because all the people want the children to talk. Speech is not the only form of communication. I wish they could just enjoy the child in the silence and not have such expectations.

  83. Rebecca
    Rebecca
    19 dagen geleden

    I know I’m so wrong to say this and I really just don’t understand the problem, but my sister dated a guy who had a daughter like this but she was just a spoiled little brat and did it for attention. It’s hard for me to separate it in my mind. Please don’t troll me with hate comments, I’m talking about my personal life-

    1. Big Ed
      Big Ed
      14 dagen geleden

      bro just be quiet

  84. Hello
    Hello
    19 dagen geleden

    a lot of what that therapist said was fine, but telling someone that you know how they feel when they know you don't just makes things worse

  85. Revan
    Revan
    19 dagen geleden

    Hahaha! This is too adorable! 😬

  86. Kawaii_Boba
    Kawaii_Boba
    19 dagen geleden

    Just talk And if ur drowning just *breath*

  87. Cc Silva
    Cc Silva
    19 dagen geleden

    Is like Autism speech is very little and is hard for them and need therapy as the age 2 yrs if they can't speak couple words and parents don't see the signs.

  88. Floral Flowers
    Floral Flowers
    19 dagen geleden

    I’m selectively mute too, I get forced to speak to my parents too even if I don’t want to. Parents a word of advice please don’t ask nor force your children to speak if they’re not comfortable with doing so.

  89. Emo_ Sqaud
    Emo_ Sqaud
    19 dagen geleden

    im sorry but it got me upset when he said "she will talk like a normal child" RED IS NORMAL!

  90. Miss_bEHss YT
    Miss_bEHss YT
    19 dagen geleden

    Precious

  91. Heather Meadows
    Heather Meadows
    19 dagen geleden

    I have this but it was waayyy worse when I was younger. I was just forced and coerced and it felt so painful. I wish my parents would have seen that it was okay to just not talk.

  92. Ana Cristina Estrada
    Ana Cristina Estrada
    20 dagen geleden

    Omg it was so sad when they asked her why she doesn't talk and she put "I don't know what to put "

  93. Grace Aspinall
    Grace Aspinall
    20 dagen geleden

    I love how reds grandad preserves so well !

  94. Swampgrassbetsy
    Swampgrassbetsy
    21 dag geleden

    I don't understand why they must push the children to speak. There are lots and lots of different ways to communicate, why must speech be so important. Red's Grandfather needs to be more considerate, patient and understanding. He lacks any creative means of using different methods in connecting with Red and it is very selfish of him. If I had a child with Selective Mutism I would give her lots of space, find therapeutic, artistic and fun activities to help decrease her anxieties and defend her issues by telling people when she is ready to speak she will.

  95. Jan Baldwin
    Jan Baldwin
    21 dag geleden

    Sooooo very happy for all the girls and their families. Tremendous growth. Thanks for sharing this very difficult condition - learned a lot!!

  96. Ava leigh Brewer
    Ava leigh Brewer
    21 dag geleden

    Does anyone know if thats social anxiety or selective mutism? It would really help me if i knew

    1. Big Ed
      Big Ed
      14 dagen geleden

      i think you have social anxiety not selective mutism. maybe talk to someone you trust about it.

    2. resw 923
      resw 923
      15 dagen geleden

      I take it you’re talking about the other comments that you left. To me it just sounds like you’re a quiet person? But if you feel it’s something more serious and affecting you greatly, it might be worth seeing a therapist or talking to someone who you feel comfortable with so you can get any help you may need. Best wishes.

  97. Ava leigh Brewer
    Ava leigh Brewer
    21 dag geleden

    I dont talk at school either I only whisper

  98. Ava leigh Brewer
    Ava leigh Brewer
    21 dag geleden

    I went to church and didnt talk I also went to get ice cream and i didnt talk

  99. Ava leigh Brewer
    Ava leigh Brewer
    21 dag geleden

    Dude when i see this kids at school i see me

  100. LMS
    LMS
    21 dag geleden

    omg Red is absolutely adorable 🥺